"Putting effort into your dating"

Whether you're a bachelor or married. We all have to make effort when it comes to Date Night. From what to wear, to the perfect spot and do's and dont's.

So you have finally mustered the courage to ask her out on a date, but now comes the fun part. Planning the first date and making it a memorable experience.

When planning that first date, keep in mind that first impressions last. From the very second she sets eyes on you, the date starts. So if you want to make it a success, keep it simply and classy.

A few tips for that "First Date"

1. Be a Gentleman. ( A female can sense when a guy is not genuine and just pretending. So open the door for her and pull out her chair.)
2. Dress and Shave well. ( First impressions are always important. So dress for the occasion. No ripped jeans guys!)  Make sure you smell nice and look great.
3. Offer to pick her up and Arrive on time . ( Punctuality is important. It also contributes to the first impression. You don't want her to wait 20-45 mins for you on your first date.)
4. Be confident and Polite.( There is a difference between confidence and cockiness guys.  Choose a topic that you are passionate about. When you speak about something you are passionate about you are likely to be yourself and more confident. Avoid taboo topics, like religion, politics and relationships.
5. Compliment her . ( Pay her a compliment eg. you look gorgeous/beautiful this evening.) Make it thoughtful...compliment her intelligence and sassiness.
6. Pay attention to her when she speaks . ( Make eye contact with her and stay present. Show her you are present and acknowledge her. Smile when she says something funny.)
7.  Switch off your cellphone. ( There is nothing worst then constant rings or beeps from your phone when you on a date. Do yourself a favour and switch it off, unless you are expecting a very important call.)
8. Offer to pay the bill . ( The ladies love a man who can provide and it's just the gentleman thing to do guys.) Don't spend too much on the evening either, she will think you are trying to buy her.
9. Walk her to her door. (  Make her feel safe and protected. If she really wants to, she wil invite you inside. Otherwise, guys don't ask to use the bathroom.)
10. To kiss or not to Kiss.  ( If you are leaning in to greet and hug your date goodnight, if she looks at you and eye contact is made, lean in and kiss her slowly . If the hug is abit distant or quick, it's best not to kiss her at that moment. Not all woman want's to be kissed on the first date.

Common Mistakes Guys Make

1. Trying to be funny . ( One of the things women hate,  She will loose interest very quickly.)
2. Talking too much and not listening.
3. Over Indulging . ( Guys the idea is not to drink like you would with a buddy. So one or two drinks should be fine.)
4. Bragging . ( Whether it's about your job, possession or achievments. Don't brad about it, she would ask you something if really wanted to know more about your job/career.)
5. Talking about ex's . ( This is a simple No-Go. The date is about getting to know someone new.)
6. Don't get too personal . ( Ask about her siblings and family, but don't get to personal right away.
7. Bad mouth others. ( DO NOT badmouth others, she will get the idea that she cannot trust you. They say the one's who speak to you about others, speaks to others about you.)
8. Don't speak about sex .( She will think that you want to jump her pants. The more you mention it, the less likely it will happen.)
9. Don't get touchy. ( If she does not touch or indicate that she wants to hold hands. Keep them to yourself.
10. Don't talk about how miserable you are. ( This is a major turn off and will make you look desperate.)

Some outfit Ideas for your date

Idea's for your next date

1. Go on a nice picnic. (Depending on the weather, go out and enjoy nature.  This is much more romantic then just picking flowers.)
2. Strawberry picking. ( This is another great reason to be outside and have some fun.)
3. Go on a museum tour. ( This could be a fun way to learn something new and share that experience.)
4. Go bowling.( Loads of fun)
5. Go to drive-in movie .( Great for those summer evenings)
6. Go Go-karting. ( This is something for the thrill seekers.)
7. Boat Trip.  (This is great, provided that neither of you will get sea-sick.)
8. Go sky-diving .( Extreme thrill seekers)
9. Wine tasting.( Great idea, for a Sunday or laid back day)
10. Go and watch the sunset. ( A romantic gesture.)

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I hope that you found the tips helpful. If you have any suggestions or feedback.